Saturday, 14 June 2014

Being more positive

Hey peeps - this is a different post to something I would usually do, but I feel I need to do this in order to accept responsibility and change the way I am. 

I'm a negative person - I've always been the same from as young as I can remember. 
I used to be that kid that wouldn't go on any rides at the fair with fear of it breaking down or me falling off. I wouldn't do things that other kids would do, like climb trees or ride a donkey because I was always scared of the bad things that could happen. It's very rarely that I think of the positive things that could happen... like I could climb to the top of tree and see the view or go on school trips and have fun with my friends. I never looked at life that way. I always find the negativity in everything. 
As I've got older, this has become quite a bad thing. I've missed good opportunities due to fear and worry of what could happen. I've missed out on so much due to me over thinking things, and making up scenarios in my head. 

I suffer with Depression and Anxiety which makes it even harder for me to break this spell. I had the opportunity to go to Australia but I was so scared of the plane crashing, or me getting lost in the airport that I missed my chance to go. It's not just the mental illnesses that make this harder for me. If you surround yourself with negative people then you will become negative yourself. My family are just as negative as I am, and living with them day in day out can make things worse for me to break this. Living with constant arguments. It's hard to be more positive when you wake up to screaming and shouting everyday. I take responsibility, I can be that person that screams and shouts and it's not a good thing. I need to break away from everything whilst still being here and being around it... do you see my dilemma? 

I do have reasons to be negative - but only to an extent. It's understandable that I don't want to swim because I nearly drowned in the bath when I was little. It's understandable that I don't want to go to a proper college because I was severely bullied in school. But I shouldn't let those things stop me from living my life. 

I read the news a lot and it's very rarely that there's positive stories in the news. It's always about someone who's been murdered, or some kid drank to much and died. A family have crashed their car and are lying in hospital critically ill, or some sick twisted person has abused their pet. It's extremely rare that you find a story about how someone stopped another from being mugged, or how one has cheated death. I'm not saying that you never hear about those things, because you do. I'm just saying it's very rare. Even the weather is depressing. English weather has always been rubbish, but when it's miserable weather you tend to find yourself feeling miserable too. These aren't excuses for the way I am because I know that there's worse stuff going on in the world. But people deal with things in different ways, and sadly stuff like this makes me negative about life. 

The good news is, that I'm trying. I'm trying to have a more positive outlook on life. It won't happen over night but what you do today, can change how you feel tomorrow. 
 I've started out with writing a list on how to be more positive, then I decided to put together a new background for my laptop... it's full of inspiring quotes so that every time I log on, that's all that I see. 

My new laptop background pictures from Google images.

I want to be more positive, not just for myself but for those around me. I can only imagine how much is must suck for those around me who have to listen to me constantly moaning and worrying about the tiniest little things. I don't want to be this person anymore. I want to have that positive outlook on life on a daily basis. I want to wake up every morning with a smile on my face knowing that that day will be a good day. 
I've decided that every few weeks I will write up a post about what I'm grateful for. I'll explain in detail as well as also writing about what I've been worrying about and how I've chosen to cope with those thoughts. I'm hoping that this will help me overcome the negativity in my life and bring me happiness. 
The first step is already complete. I've accepted responsibility and had the courage to accept it. I'm now ready to make a difference in myself. 

The next step: Avoid negative influences. Steer clear from arguments that don't involve me and steer away from those that do to. Talk about situations instead of arguing about them. Smile more even if it's forced.